A Journey of Empowerment Through Hair Care
The Early Roots: My Introduction to Hair Care
I never set out to become a hair care specialist; rather, hair found me. Growing up in a household where hair time was sacred, I discovered early on that our hair is more than just aesthetics—it’s a symbol of identity, culture, and love. Some of my fondest memories revolve around sitting between my mother’s legs while she braided my hair, listening to stories and soaking in her wisdom. That cherished ritual shaped my understanding of the cultural significance Black hair holds, eventually guiding me toward my life’s work.
The Turning Point
I started as a freelance stylist in the commercial production industry, mostly working with adults. But my path shifted when a mother and daughter were referred to me by a stranger. The mother was overwhelmed by her daughter’s hair care needs despite spending countless hours on tutorials. When she exhaled with relief after our session—feeling grateful and newly confident—that moment changed me forever. It revealed a deep need for hands-on guidance, not just styling tips.
From Stylist to Coach
What began as one-off appointments soon evolved into a community of transracial adoptive and foster parents seeking my help. I transitioned from styling hair to coaching parents, walking them through the essentials of afro-textured hair care. My approach is grounded in compassion and empathy, because I fully grasp the powerful cultural role Black hair plays. It’s not just about products and techniques; it’s about honoring a child’s sense of identity.
Cultural Connections: More Than Just Hair
I believe hair time is also bonding time. Each detangling session or braid is an invitation for parents to connect with their children, share stories, and pass on cultural knowledge. By delving into the history and pride embedded in every curl, parents go beyond hair care—they nurture self-esteem and cultural awareness in their children.
My Practical Guide: Black Hair Care
That passion led me to create Practical Guide: Black Hair Care, a resource blending historical context, empathy, and step-by-step instructions for parents. I also address the societal biases that can impact a child’s self-image, reminding parents that natural Black hair deserves celebration and respect. Every child should see their reflection as beautiful, exactly as they are.
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Typically, washing once a week or every two weeks is enough to maintain moisture. Opt for sulfate-free shampoos and follow with a deep conditioner to prevent dryness.
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Sealing locks in moisture after cleansing and conditioning. First, use a leave-in conditioner or water-based moisturizer. Then apply natural oils or butters (such as coconut or shea) to close the cuticle and retain hydration.
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Always detangle on damp or well-moisturized hair. Use a wide-tooth comb, working from the ends upward. A detangling spray or leave-in conditioner can also help reduce knots and friction.
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Braids, twists, and cornrows offer both style and protection. Keep them loose at the scalp to avoid tension, and vary styles to prevent stress on the same areas.
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Avoid calling natural Black hair “unruly” or “exotic,” and never touch someone’s hair without permission. Recognize its cultural significance and approach every conversation with respect and an open mind.
A Lasting Impact
Through my coaching and writing, I hope to spark change one family at a time. My mission is simple yet powerful: to empower parents and children by honoring the deep heritage and cultural significance of Black hair. If one child experiences hair time as a moment of love, acceptance, and pride, then I’ve fulfilled my purpose.
